Therapy for Men
Why Therapy for Men Matters
Many men are struggling with their mental health but are not as likely to reach out to a professional for help. If you read online forums you find out quickly that many men have tried therapy and found it lacking or even damaging. You will find reports of men saying that therapy is overly politicized, biased, and judgmental. Of course this isn’t the experience of all men but sometimes it is the men who most need support who have the hardest time finding a supportive match.
Many men are struggling with their mental health but are not as likely to reach out to a professional for help. If you read online forums you find out quickly that many men have tried therapy and found it lacking or even damaging. You will find reports of men saying that therapy is overly politicized, biased, and judgmental. Of course this isn’t the experience of all men but sometimes it is the men who most need support who have the hardest time finding a supportive match.
Men ARE struggling and they need help from someone who understands them. Men are far more likely to die by suicide. They are more likely to experience violence. They are more likely to struggle with addiction. They are doing worse in school. Many are finding it difficult to create a meaningful, productive life and are staying in their parents’ basement, arrested in their development.
At Redhouse Psychological Solutions we met people where they are at. Psychotherapy is not meant to be formulaic. Treatment that we provide is grounded in scientific methods while being direct and genuine. You will be respected and you will be challenged when you meet with our therapists. But most importantly you will feel understood at a time when it seems like no one else understands you.
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Why Men Avoid Therapy
Men report that they avoid or delay therapy for various reasons, and we understand. Commonly they cite reasons like:​
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​Past negative experience with therapists who seemed to just lecture or who did not get it
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Fear of appearing weak or looking stupid
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Uncertainty whether talking to a therapist would be helpful
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A preference to work on things themselves
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A culture that does not value or respect them anymore
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Therapy is perceived as a feminized profession/practice
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Going to therapy will be used against them in the future
It is true that therapy can feel unnatural at first. How could it not? You’re opening up to someone who is a stranger in ways you probably have never done so in the past! It’s uncomfortable. But there is something powerful about going into the darkest places and returning successfully. This is an ancient story that has been motivating human beings for millenia. It can be your story too.
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Every guy who walks through our doors has a unique story but here are some common reasons why men comes to us:
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Compulsive/problematic sexual behaviours (infidelity, porn addiction, etc) They’ve made a mistake that they fear has ruined their lives
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They don’t feel like anyone in their life cares about them Past traumatic experiences keep coming back to haunt them Anger is becoming a constant and serious problem
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They are being alienated from their kids through a messy divorce They are trying to find purpose in their life but nothing is materializing
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They want to be in a relationship but worry that they are not appealing to women They lack close friends and meaningful bonds
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·They are burnt out at work.
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They are losing their faith in their religion and do not know what to do next
Let’s be honest, many men go to therapy because their wives are demanding they do so. If this is the case then starting with us is a good idea.
What We Work On
Our Happy Clients
A Different Kind of Therapy for Men
At Redhouse, we practice from a depth psychology, or psychoanalytic approach. Labels can get confusing but essentially this means that nobody is going to give you a script. You’re not going to be lectured from a political or ideological bias. It’s about:
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Listening without judgment
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Giving you space to sort out your thoughts and feelings
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Asking the right questions that elicit meaningful and insightful dialogue
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Meeting your concerns with empathy and curiosity
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Respecting your values, your intelligence, and your autonomy
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Helping you see patterns that have kept you down
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Help you see your blindspots that keep tripping you up
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Coming up with personalized strategies to confront your demons
Some of our male clients say things like :
“This is exactly what I was coming for”
“I’ve never talked like this before to anyone”
“You’re bang on”​
You’ve thought about it, now it’s time to start
Most men don’t reach out until there is a crisis or if someone is compelling them but what better time to start working on yourself than now?
We offer therapy for men in Lethbridge and across Alberta (online). We offer services in Spanish and French as well.
How We Work
We believe that every healing journey is unique — and so is our approach. Our process is designed to make you feel comfortable, heard, and supported at every step.
Frequently Asked Questions
