Mental Health
Mental Health
At Redhouse Psychological Solution we take a different approach. We believe that mental health is much more that just the absence of symptoms. We believe that it is the presence of self awareness, emotional depth, meaningful relationships, and an inner life that makes sense for you.
Mental Health Isn’t a Set of Tricks
Real therapy is so much more than learning how to “cope” with anxiety or “manage” depression. Those things have their place but at the heart of the matter mental health is:
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Knowing what you feel and why you feel it
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Seeing your patterns clearly, especially the ones that sabotage you
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Understanding how your past shaped your present
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Being more emotionally honest with yourself and others
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Being able to love and work in ways that feel whole
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Having a coherent sense of self
What We Don’t Know Often Hurts Us the Most
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Take it from renowned psychoanalyst Dr. Jonathan Shedler
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One of most important things I've learned:
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Severe personality problems find *camouflage.* No one thinks “I’m a sadist” or “I'm a malignant narcissist.
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They find a belief system/social group that validates their most hateful, destructive impulses & construes them as virtues.
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The most toxic and hateful people in the world are 100% convinced they fight on the side of all that is true and right.
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They find a way to give free rein to their cruelty, to attack, to treat others cruelly and viciously.
*And they find allies to cheer them on* who also believe they are on the side of all that is true and good.
For professional colleagues looking for more theoretical explanation, the psychological processes are splitting, projection and projective identification.
Splitting means not recognizing one’s own capacity for hate, cruelty and destructiveness. The person is blind to the bad in themselves. Instead, they project the badness onto some designated other. And this other person or group, via the defense of projection, is now seen as the repository of all that is bad and evil, that must be attacked and destroyed.
That’s the projection.
The person now feels fully justified in unleashing their viciousness & hate on the other person, who is now seen (via projection) as someone monstrous who should be destroyed.
If the person on the receiving end of the projection responds to the intense provocation with anger or dares to fight back in any way, this is now seen as further proof of how hateful and evil they are—and why attacking them is just and right.
This is what is called “projective identification.
The end result is that the person can deny their own sadism, cruelty, and hate—while simultaneously acting it out without restraint. And feel themselves to be 100% on the side of truth and right as they do it.”
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This is Why We Practice Depth Psychology
If your therapist is helping you figure out solutions within the first 20 minutes of meeting you, what are the odds that you are finding solutions to the right problems? It can take months to figure out what the problem is in a sufficient enough manner to start thinking about meaningful solutions (not always, but be ready to turn this into a lifelong practice). You may not meet with your therapist for the rest of your life but through the work that you do in therapy you will be working on yourself in a more meaningful way for the rest of your life.
The solutions are within you but you don’t have access to them. Otherwise you would have solved your problems years ago on your own. We are here to help you find the part of you that is indestructible and the rest of you that needs to change so that you feel accountable and empowered to be a better version of you.
Book an appointment today by calling 403-849-7827
How We Work
We believe that every healing journey is unique — and so is our approach. Our process is designed to make you feel comfortable, heard, and supported at every step.
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